No matter how well or bad the first date went, there is an expectation to discuss next steps by the end of it. Questions that will naturally come to mind: “Do I want to see the person again?”; “I don’t think we’re a good match, but how do I tell him or her?”; “I really like this person, but how do I know if her or she feels the same?”.



To most of these questions there are no right or wrong answer. But you will never find out if you don’t open your mouth and ask. Just go ahead and say: “I had a really nice time. How do you suggest we proceed from here?”. Or: “I had a really nice time, but I think I would like to meet some other people as well before committing myself. I hope you don’t mind.”

There’s no need for wasting each other’s time. If you want to continue to a next date, say so. If you don’t, be honest without being rude. And it the feelings aren’t mutual, respect that and move on.

If you don’t want to decide immediately, suggest to continue to chat online after a day or two. Don’t be shy to send the first follow-up message, even if you are the woman. Remember, men also have confidence issues. A message from you might be just the booster they need to take some initiative. Who knows what they might surprise you with?

The golden rule is to go with your gut feeling. Follow your instinct. It’s seldom wrong. It might lead you to the love of your life. And if it doesn’t, you can move on happily knowing you gave it your best. If you stay true to yourself, you’ll have nothing to regret.